hunter and prey

[invisibleplanet]

Inspired by this from another topic:

Originally posted by phdbob
inevitably people are either incredibly dull or painfully rude. and if they're neither I find they're often really annoying and pester me to meet up to have SEX with them. the phrase, "NO, GO AWAY" doesn't seem to have much currency these days.

well...well...

rofl phdbob!

I found the best way to shun such pests, is to announce I have a boyfriend. Inevitably, 8/10 times, they look disappointed, mumble, and excuse themselves from my vicinity. The other two times out of ten, they still persist with ridiculous lines like 'O come on, he doesn't have to know' and other ethically inviable statements.

This line can also help if I want to have a REAL conversation with a REALISTIC man, as when I drop the line 'My b/f isn't here tonight, he relaxes as he becomes aware that I'm not chatting him up, and mostly a decent converation follows on.

I have found, in clubs which I frequent to enjoy the music, and dance, that I am often approached by pilled-up techno heads, with no awareness of physical boundaries.

Once, at the Orbit, (with grobelaar) he witnessed one of my 'get your hands off me' lines, as I looked the offending bloke straight in the eyes, and removed his hand from my ass, with the back up line of 'I know u won't take this the wrong way, but I am not a touchy-feeley kind-of-gurl', and so I would rather you didn't do that, thankyou'. Man, u should have seen him physically reel backwards from that action/comment - his face was so shocked!! But realised he was on X, I kept eye contact, and asked him where he came from, and kept a conversation going with him for a few minutes after, before excusing myself to return to the dancefloor.

Later on, my friend returned from the toilets, all flushed and smiley - she had had a sexul encounter with the same ee'd up pill head. U probably DON'T want to hear what I thought about that one :|

SO - seeing phdbobs comment, makes me realise it's not only women who receive this kind of pressure when 'out and about'.

Do any no-futurers have stories to tell about their experiences of sexual pests or over-pleasant people of either gender in clubs or other locations?

[phil]

clubs are gay

[phdbob]

...at some stage your "meetings" will become routine and mundane. when you
grow tired of the same thing every weekend or are spending too much time and energy,
it's time for the phase-out. plan ahead about a month, and always keep
in mind that she is on her way-out, not the other way around. stop
calling her during the week and screen your incoming calls. if she
insists on bothering you at work, the "i'm really busy" excuse never can
be challenged by her. impress on her the fact that something in your
life or career is changing, and you don't want to talk about it. become
more distant every day, but always tell her that it's not her fault. you
can use the work-stress excuse if you want, provided that she knows
nothing about your job.

(tip: if you can't get rid of her tell her you turned gay, they really hate that but it works!)

[mr franks]

always keep looking at your shoes when you are out in a club.

[invisibleplanet]

phdbob - that technique of aloofness certainly works...eventually - but initally it seems confusing to the hunter, as they seem to work on reversed principles such as no means yes, and becoming less available seems to temporarily increase their desire, before they explode into an angry confrontation.

[phdbob]

argh you are right!
so better talk about childern and marriage as reverse tactics...i keep it in mind the next time:)

[phil]

whats your phd in bob?

[invisibleplanet]

unfortunately, phdbob, the line - ''i have a child' seems to relegate one's status as a woman in hunter's mind 'is desparate for a shag, but no good for a girlfriend' .

On the other hand, i've watched from the sidelines as many of my young women friend's form relationships based on their instinctual , yet 'destructive' desire for children alone, means that line isn't enough to dissuade a female hunter from capturing u, lulling u into a false sense of security, and turning u into a free sperm donor.

[phdbob]

guess the same like your ph in il
:)

[phil]

IP, where is the babys daddy?

[phdbob]

ugh! sperm!
i perfer a more clinic relationship!°

[dirtyho]

@IP I went to turnmills to some crazy gay night years ago with a friend of mine when i lived in London. Anyway, naive 19 yr old that I was I ended up being pursued around the club by a fat, sweaty, topless very unnattractive man, obviously off his head on pills. After several polite refusals my friend, who was large and black came to my rescue by barging in, grabbing hold and kissing me and telling the bloke to "piss off - he's mine". One of the most intense moments of relief in my life.

[phdbob]

some yrs ago i woke up on a sofa in a place some people had a party and realized a 45 yrs old frenchteacher kissed me...horrible! i could escape and found a toothbrush in the bathroom.

[Yer_Maw]

when i was 16 i got accosted by some well wasted 30 year old that demanded i 'walked' her home. she was doing my nut in so after about and hour wandering about i eventually had to run away from her in the street. oh dear. i probably shouldnt have done that. but spose i was only wee.

[dirtyho]

I left college in London (partly cos I hated it admittedly) after a bunch of us went to our 40 year old tutors house for a party and he grabbed my crotch and started kissing me - in front of all my classmates - ugh. I must have been giving out the wrong signals then ;)

[Marolo]

Originally posted by dirtyho
@IP I went to turnmills to some crazy gay night years ago with a friend of mine when i lived in London. Anyway, naive 19 yr old that I was I ended up being pursued around the club by a fat, sweaty, topless very unnattractive man, obviously off his head on pills. After several polite refusals my friend, who was large and black came to my rescue by barging in, grabbing hold and kissing me and telling the bloke to "piss off - he's mine". One of the most intense moments of relief in my life.

Was that Trade?

meat market I hate

[bitch one]

recently i met my gf (or burd as we weegies say) in a pub and some guy was chatting her up, annoying her. i simply asked him what he was talking about, and he said 'do you want a fuckin fight?' i said 'no not really. why would i want a fight?' i thought it was me that was meant to ask him that ?

u mention desperado pillheads tho - it is very common now to see this in clubs - i can remember back in the day there was hardly any leering guys in techno clubs, and everyone was pilled up. i'd rather blame alcohol, which nobody used to touch.

[Marolo]

oh, but some pills make me so horny I have to say

[invisibleplanet]

@dirtyho - the torture of being a young and oriental i suppose :!

something similar happened to me at an ex-friends birthday party, when I said goodbye to the inebriated host with muy usual friendly 'mwah mwah' on both cheeks, he gripped the back of my head, and forcefully tried to kissed me, nearly breaking my front teeth, in front of all our mutual friends. As he had a black belt in Karate, it was impossible to remove myself from the situation. It was dreadful.

[Yer_Maw]

haw bitch you goanney let some cunt chat up yer bird like that? want me tae get on the fane, then itll be ring ring bang bang fae the young toon fleeto?

alcohol is the worst fucking drug out for making me insane.

[minor tint_]

most of my attempts in clubs result, in a bad impression, and or too drunk

[Yer_Maw]

buckfast and e fucked up a promising bird for me.

no way that rhymes

it did but.

[Basic 2: The Revenge]

Originally posted by Yer_Maw
buckfast and e fucked up a promising bird for me.

no way that rhymes

it did but.

Try Rohypnol....

[Yer_Maw]

i dont need to drug myself to get my evil way with me

:)

[Basic 2: The Revenge]

Yeah, I had three once and never pulled all night!

[dirtyho]

@Marolo, i think it was called Trade come to think of it, awful music too

[invisibleplanet]

Originally posted by phdbob
argh you are right!
so better talk about childern and marriage as reverse tactics...i keep it in mind the next time:)

sorry, but i think this is an awful idea!

Can it ever be a good idea to accept the advances of a total stranger?

I become less convinced of this, as time goes by.....
or am I just naive ...or weird?

[pille'ocheoni]

twinkle

[owain_k]

Originally posted by Basic 2: The Revenge
Yeah, I had three once and never pulled all night!

lol

Dude....I'm suprised u remember the night !

Can't say i've ever gone to a club with the intention of chatting up women, i certainly don't find the environment conduscive.....

True though wat u say Marolo....some pills have made me feel more than hot under the collar ;)

[grobelaar]

Originally posted by dirtyho
@Marolo, i think it was called Trade come to think of it, awful music too

...it sounds like Trade - thousands of Muscle Marys, totally, totally, totally, off their tits - all largin' to the largin' sounds of Tony De Vit... Grabbing anything that even looks remotely like a pulse...

Look out here come the hard house hoovers - rich for the lasers - vroomy - boomy - vroomy - boomy - vroomy - boomy...

I'm no hunter, and its seems I have an uncanny knack of not being particularly prey-worthy either - but going to Trade was the one time, when I was thankful that people didn't feel obliged to try it on with me - Predatory doesn't even begin to describe the place - it was just dripping in sex pheromones and drugs... uugh disgusting...
:! :D
:-p :illin:

[Marolo]

were you sweaty and shirtless to fit in? :D

[Mirsha]

Originally posted by Yer_Maw
buckfast and e
Combination of the gods. Buckfast gets you fucked fast and with a nice pill thrown in welcome to planet spoon.

[Marolo]

When I'm in a club and off my head I am usually quite direct i.e "Do you wanna go for a shag in the toilets?". It usually doesn't work but it has worked a couple of times.
I just hate playing games so I wish everyone would be more open about shagging and stuff. ping pong

[CHIP TRONIC]

moral level = - infinite

[grobelaar]

Originally posted by Marolo
were you sweaty and shirtless to fit in? :D

Certainly not - I'm not a taking my shirt off in public sort of person...

[aleks]

why?because of your hairy back? lol lol

[MUX]

and shoulders...

[grobelaar]

I tried casual sex and its not really for me. I like to have fun, but I still need to have some sort of emotional attachment to the person. but casual sex is too much like two people agreeing to use each other - makes me feel cold, used and a bit guilty (probably about using them), but some people clearly get their rocks off doing it - so what the heck...

@Aleks and Mux: yes, I am in fact the yeti-man - I have my shirt off almost all of the time - but people don't notice, especially not since i bleached it with peroxide and braided my chest and back hair - people just think I'm wearting a jumper a cable knit sweater that my mum bought me for Xmas... :-)

[invisibleplanet]

yeah - don't think I'm knocking casual sex between other people! Some of my girlfriends are really into it, and I still love them regardless, they know what they want, and have no qualms about getting it!

Same goes for my boyfriends too - some aren't getting any, and wonder why their 'hunting' fails, and some are adepts :)

But me..I prefer not to hunt, or be hunted. Don't mind flirting though :) Flirting is great fun!

[aleks]

:)