Question: Do Guys like being approached?

[Daddys Girl]

Sorry if this seems like a tedious post, but I have to gather some valid opinions, and I'm sure the erutufon family have many ;o)

In a nutshell, D_G is pretty rubbish when it comes to blokes - either nerves or sheer fear set in.

Last summer, managed to find some guts, and talked to a fella @ my uni that I happen to like - went well enough, etc and we still talk on the odd occasion... anyway, saw him about the campus today, and it appeared that he was extremely eager for me to go over and talk to him - I attempted to style it out, and eventually went over to him, and started to chat - then he started acting cooler than a frozen cucumber, which gave me a really lame chill - like he wanted me to go away :(

I dunno if I'm just being too bold with him, or if he actually is just a shy fella (long story anyhow), but I was just wondering what the general erutufon consensus was on girls & guys....

Peace and love
D_G ;o)

[aleks]

i like being approached...makes life way easier.:)

[pille'ocheoni]

me too...............like a i have a date tonight i shaved and all. but its weird cus she came up to me and started talking.i gave her positive responses and good body language.things went smooth and i asked her if she wanted to go out. and she said yes! glory! so ill tell you how it goes. most guys show the direct opposite of what they feel. id pursue and take a bold stab at asking what hes doing for the night? do you like food? you know. then again, most women follow the golden rule of waiting to be approached...........your a beautiful woman ,that should have no problem getting men. please take my advice and reasure yourself. peace/p

[c s]

that's not quite like bogart then...

topic: no idea. i always refused to believe there are general, omnivalid rules. also i still refuse to believe there are certain characterictics typical of men or women at all. i think that's rubbish as every situation is unique and every person is (or should start being) an individual.

[tsr_tomas]

haha, it depends... if it´s in a bar i´m the one approaching people.
other then that. if a i´m being approach i often reject people and say stupid things.. like.
-you panda, go a way, i would say.
-what ? panda ? ,she would say.
-yes, you are all black, white and phat, ill answer.
-you are sick, you know that, she.
-well, döööh. me.
-fuck you, she.
-yes please, me.

and then they leave me alone.

haha, crap. i´m sick.

[Weishaupt]

hehehehe..............

[pille'ocheoni]

lol

[LEFTHANDLOU]

Its a tough call, some people think they are all that if you approach them. Its best to drop some hints but keep your distance, and Entice a motherfucker till they have no choice but to hit you up. And if they don't, then most likely they are lame, not interested, gay, or really shy, again if you have to go over, don't be a push over, make them work for it.

If all fails flash a quick tit, that will bring him over for sure (unless he's gay). And Eye contact is a must. let your eyes do most of the work

[deccard]

Originally posted by LEFTHANDLOU


If all fails flash a quick tit, that will bring him over for sure (unless he's gay). And Eye contact is a must. let your eyes do most of the work

there is no general answer. trust your feeling. maybe you just gotta learn he´s a dumbass and next time u find a nice one on first try.
maybe it takes month.
my girlfriend needed so much patience with me before we got together...

or just flash a quick tit lol

[Sheridan]

I prefer to have women approach me since I am quite shy when it comes to dealings with the fairer sex. but it really shouldn't matter in the end. if YOU are interested in getting to know someone, then YOU should make first contact.
it is either going to go two ways: yes, or no.
and regret can leave a bitter aftertaste.

[tsr_tomas]

sheridan: you should try me style. i doesn´t work. but i try !

once i tried out this dialog.
a girl saw me stand in line for a toilett visit, she comes up to me and says.
-i think it´s kind of sex when you hide your eye´s behinde you long hair. she say... i got long hair.
-well, i heard that girl that goes to the ladys room to pauder there nose really go there to piss in cross over the toilett, coz thats like womens biggest secret, i answear.
-you can´t have had many women, she said.
-does that disturb you, i say.
-no. she.
-then we can do some sporting in bed together i like to pracits making babys you see, i say.

she walks away....

damn, can´t girls take a joke ?

ey PS. that was just my drunken swords master style.

[Weishaupt]

few years ago i met a girl in a club.
she: Hi
Me: Hi
She:I know you
Me: So? hm Ok..i know you too..........
She:hahaha
Me:hahaha
Me:bar?
She:ok
We: sitting on the bar and kidding
she:you dumb!
Me: I shows her my middlefinger....
She:OK
WE: leave the club to her house and made evil things..........

strnj nite

[deccard]

even a blind chicken finds a seed.

[Weishaupt]

Originally posted by deccard
even a blind chicken finds a seed.

bäähh

:-)

youre just envious...........

[deccard]

höhö
nope.
don´t like fat girls.



*this is not a political correct joke and doesn´t reflect my opinion about fat chicks* :illin:

[Weishaupt]

Originally posted by deccard
höhö
nope.
don´t like fat girls.



*this is not a political correct joke and doesn´t reflect my opinion about fat chicks* :illin:

pfff
i know u like besoms without toothes

[deccard]

hehe

what the hell are besoms without toothes?

[Weishaupt]

besen ohne zähne

www.leo.org

[deccard]

man kann sichs halt net immer aussuchen...:)

[Weishaupt]

Originally posted by deccard
man kann sichs halt net immer aussuchen...:)

recht haste:-)

[deccard]

bloss jetzt nicht in der vergangenheit schwelgen hahaha...
gudes nächtle noch...

[Weishaupt]

na..wer wird den gleich................alles verstehen....?

dir auch!
:-)

[aleks]

Originally posted by deccard
höhö
nope.
don´t like fat girls.

there are no ugly chicks there is only less alcohol...

[invisibleplanet]

{off topic}
a besom is a broom - olde english word ;)
teeth is the plural of tooth

a bosom are a womens breasts
{on topic}

[gunjack]

Originally posted by invisibleplanet
a bosom are a womens breasts



do go on.....

[ischo]

but it really shouldn't matter in the end. if YOU are interested in getting to know someone, then YOU should make first contact.

...and ain't it great to be rewarded?

[Daddys Girl]

Hey y'all -

I see what you're saying. I realise that it's an "each to their own" scenario - that there really is no "law" as such as to how guys and girls should interact - but I'm loving and thankful for your opinions anyway.

Guess I'm just looking for advice really. Although I have all my mates and family there to guide me, it kinda sucks when they are all either in relationships, or have actually had one - where as I'm still waiting to find out what a relationship is all about - cute, isn't it? ;o)

Anyway, please feel free to keep sending in your viwes, or talking about old brooms, teeth and boobies :)

Mad love 4 U all

D_G ;ox

[MUX]

if he refuses, i'll come down and beat the fucker up... ok?

[aleks]

that´s really sweet of you mux...

[aleks]

if there ever will be a girl that denies me will you come down and beat her up for me?

[MUX]

in pure gunjack style...

[Daddys Girl]

Awww..... Mux - a "kind" offer - why thank-you ;o)
Looks the the erutufon crew has it's own gansters on-board to help out in times of need :)

D_G ;o)

[MUX]

http://www.cuppachat.com/anipeople/gangster.gif

[Daddys Girl]

@ Mux - :)

An extra from The Untouchables, or a Mafia in his own right?

D_G ;o)

[MUX]

im a ghetto celebrity darhling

[wheezer]

*sings* ghetto superstar, that is what you are...

[MUX]

one time
two time
fu-ge-la

[wheezer]

my eyes are sore,
being a senator

[MUX]

hahaha who know this track quite well...

[wheezer]

yeh sometimes I'm in a state that I can watch hours of mtv, not even changing the channel when it's commercial time...

back when I still had German television I'd watch documentaries on parmesan cheese instead though

[gunjack]

http://attrition.org/gallery/spoof/badphotoshoppery/budgetho.jpg

[wheezer]

<img src="http://www.zettera.com/b3ta/tih.gif">

[gunjack]

hehe.....

http://attrition.org/gallery/spoof/new_tv/antique_dildo_show.jpg

[wheezer]

<img src="http://www.fukingmachines.com/images/cathedral1.gif">

[wheezer]

<img src="http://www.lamer.net/sloth.jpg">

[phaedrus]

I like being approached. I really appreciate it when someone shows some interest.

Joris

[gunjack]

http://www.templeofblood.com/~ncc386/ubb_images/wtf_darth_vader.jpg

[wheezer]

<img src="http://homepage.mac.com/howheels/rubpics/woowoo2.jpg">

[gunjack]

http://www.templeofblood.com/~ncc386/ubb_images/high.jpg

[wheezer]

<img src="http://www.lamer.net/lawrence.gif">

[CHIP TRONIC]

girls who are still able to approach me, who are still kind enough to have a good party with me....
who aren´t arrogant, those girls may approach me.

Others please stay distant!!! i don´t like dragons or trojan horses who are sooo beautiful but sooo beasty, too.

[karitek]

Originally posted by Daddys Girl
Guess I'm just looking for advice really. Although I have all my mates and family there to guide me, it kinda sucks when they are all either in relationships, or have actually had one - where as I'm still waiting to find out what a relationship is all about - cute, isn't it? ;o)

how old are you anyhoot?

don't worry....it'll all come in time, just have patience. trust me. i am sure there is a great guy waiting for u out there, and he'll be very lucky.

[grobelaar]

I know how you feel, I’d love it if girls approached me, but doesn’t seem very popular thing and maybe this guy is just shy – I know I’m not a big talker and perhaps that sometimes comes across as aloofness. Plus I’m really crap with the body language thing – just doesn’t register at all, I sometimes think that some girls have been flirtatious but it isn’t until a few days later – by which time they’ve sacked it off because I didn’t respond. A nasty circle.
I think its kinda a bad thing about our society, there seems to be very little concern for emotional education, I know I’m just a misfit and there’s lots of people out there who get by all of their own accord, but I seem to know a lot of people in the same boat and who’s fault is that they’re where they are – its our society. Even the people that seem sorted, end up getting divorced and so on.

[Daddys Girl]

@ Karitek - I'm 20 years old (as of December just passed) I'm not in a mad-hurry to get a fella or nothing, but it just feels a tad sour sometimes when I think about it....

@ Grobelaar - I kinda see what you're saying when it comes to emotional education too... There are some pretty ballsy girls out there who do approach guys - which is a mode that I've been trying to adopt of late. Funny thing is with me, I'm not a particulatty shy person, but when it comes to someone a fancy, I'm all knots & tangled!!!

Well, I'm not gonna bend myself outta shape about this whole thing - and guys - I'm sorry if this is to pathetic a thread :) , but D_G just had to ask...

Peace, cakes, and chocolate flakes
D_G ;o)

[amble]

yes grobe it seems we are only trained to achieve financial succes. that is pretty much the big goal isn't it? emotioal succes and personality is a thing everyone has to achieve on his/her own which is a bit foul to me. i don't know how this could be trained (in school for example) but it should be on the agenda somehow.

on the other hand maybe they just try to keep our personalities small.

[7875]

i think it would be great if more women would take the first approach. it definately makes things easier for men. i can't, for the life of me, understand why in the hell a woman would be scared of stepping to a man. what is there to lose? most of the time men are doing all they can (if they haven't perfected it yet) to appear aloof and that,"hey baby, i've got the world on a fuckin' string and i don't need anybody." i think the world would be a much better place if women would initiate the first step, really.

[Mui]

I recon it's great when women approch you, it saves a hell of a lot more walking if you can smile at someone across the bar, then they come over and make with the pleasantries.......and I suck at making the first move, I'm a nice person and all and a lot of the time I think I come across as being nice, or friendly, rather than trying to make a play....but the thing is now I've got a girlfriend I seem to get approched a crapload more, and in situations that I never used to.....like at the supermarket, do girls have some sort of radar for taken guys?? answer me that!

[dirtyho]

I think most men like being approached - after all it's very flattering. Otherwise they're probably really shy or the macho type. Who makes the first move has all sorts of factors to it - but if you have a feeling about someone surely you've got to say something otherwise you'll never know - so if they don't do it then you've got to.

[invisibleplanet]

can i ask this question: do u guys like the geeky, shy girls, who aren't the epitome of FHM-style beauty? Or do u prefer the more noticeable brightly feathered chicks?

[dirtyho]

geeky girls can be real cool
but sometimes they're not

[wheezer]

quote from an old friend of mine:

"you better not go out with a geeky girl, otherwise it'll be fucking boring hanging out with the two of you"

[dirtyho]

is this an admission of geekhood wheezer ;)

[dirtyho]

IP I just like girls that I like, it's really difficult to describe a "type" that I like because it never seems to work that way for me. No sooner do I say "I like this type of girl" than i meet a girl who's the anti-thesis who's really cool. I think most of us actually connect to individuals - if you have a real feeling for someone you'll often put your preconceptions to one side.

[invisibleplanet]

I'm doooooooooooomed!

[dirtyho]

no you're not

[invisibleplanet]

ok - i'm being silly - u can tell by how many o's i used ;)

[dirtyho]

i know, i'm joking, you are too together to be doomed IP ;)

[wheezer]

Originally posted by dirtyho
is this an admission of geekhood wheezer ;)

I study computer science, I basically carry a badge :)

[aleks]

what does geeky mean?

[dirtyho]

same as nerdy, someone who is not socially adept, is good at maths/science, enjoys the company of machines more than people, and wears glasses 1/2 cm thick - OK this is the extreme of the stereotype

[aleks]

ok, i like geeky girls...

[invisibleplanet]

Originally posted by dirtyho
same as nerdy, someone who is not socially adept, is good at maths/science, enjoys the company of machines more than people, and wears glasses 1/2 cm thick - OK this is the extreme of the stereotype

.. but not far from the mark there lol
i've got super-thin bausch & lomb lenses....

[wheezer]

yeh I don't usually wear my glasses

[grobelaar]

Originally posted by dirtyho
IP I just like girls that I like, it's really difficult to describe a "type" that I like because it never seems to work that way for me. No sooner do I say "I like this type of girl" than i meet a girl who's the anti-thesis who's really cool. I think most of us actually connect to individuals - if you have a real feeling for someone you'll often put your preconceptions to one side.

I'm the same, sometimes you can see a girl and she is stunning, then after watching her for a bit, she is just so full of herself. I think there's a lot to do with that self-image/perceived image thing. In this case she is so convinced of her own beauty that she has neglected the fact that it is hollow and she is shallow and self centred - sounds cliched but you see it soo much - especially if you go down to the Plaza shopping centre on Oxford St in London, its right next to loads of model agencies and the place fills up with the most stunning look girls - but they're all just these shells (well apart from the ones who have just been rejected - 'humpty dumpty' moment)...

I think I like something more natural, a nice happy smile is a big turn on and something intangible that you can't quite put your finger on. If that's geeky girls, then fine, I'm a geek in disguise - I obviously cover it over with my cool underground techno party thang - but techno is a bit geeky... :-)

[pille'ocheoni]

i like geeky girls. feathery chicks are very unappeling to me. education is key, and if the after effects are geeky than oh well. i have to be able to talk with you in any situation, if not then why are we dating?

[dirtyho]

Grobs, techno is definitely geeky
I know what you're saying about the attractiveness thing, my mate works for a model agency in london and he's over the moon because he's actually found one of these girls whose personality he likes.
The problem with some of them I guess is that they "believe the hype" they expect men to drop at their feet because they're pretty and don't pay enough attention to being nice people.
Anyway different people find attractiveness in different looks - I've seen some models who look great in photos with makeup, but are not all that in the flesh.

Basically you like the person or not - sure their appearance is a factor in this, but if that's all you're going on it's superficial.

[bitch one]

my latest girlfriend just came up to me in the club and said 'you're coming home with me.' who am i to argue?

DG

i reckon the key to attracting people is to be really comfortable with yourself. then you send out good vibes and the right kind of people pick them up. it just happens naturally, it's a force of nature. and i think that person is often NOT a person you have a crush on. my own experience of crushes is they tend to be on unsuitable/unattainable people. the person you end up going out with tends not to be the one you'd pick out of a line-up. of course, sometimes a crush does lead to something more. there are no rules.

and when it comes to 'making moves' - just be friendly. if there is not a good response to your friendliness, then he's not interested. if he responds by being friendly - well he may or may not be interested. but it should be fairly obvious eventually.

auntie bitch

xx

[wheezer]

hmm judging from these comments the term geek ranges in meaning from "member of the chess club" to "able to have a conversation"...

[dirtyho]

Talkin sense bitch one. i have never understood the chat-up line thing. One uniform model of conversation for all persons of the opposite sex - yeah that's going to work. Like you'd have one line to getting talking to other blokes in the pub - I don't think so!

I think what you said about being comfortable with yourself is so true. When you are comfortable with yourself you don't have to "try" at this stuff it just happens. I just split up with my girlfriend of 8 years and I was really worried about meeting someone else. She was my first girlfriend and we met when I was 19 so I have no experience of this dating shit. Actually, there was nothing to worry about, all my fears were based on what i was like when I ws 19. Then it really was hard, I didn't feel comfortable with myself and therefore didn't feel comfortable with girls. Now I don't seem to feel that awkwardness. I've met someone new and it's so nice and easy. I don't plan things, I just live in the moment and things naturally seem to take their course - which is usually a good course. Too much planning is bad for this stuff I reckon, be spontaeneous, be yourself and you'll end up with the right person.

[grobelaar]

Originally posted by bitch one
my latest girlfriend just came up to me in the club and said 'you're coming home with me.' who am i to argue?



YEah, but that's how they do it in colder climates, innit, I've heard all about these saxon/nordic things where the women chuck their men over their shoulder and have a race around the island...

I movin' to Scotland... I want a feisty scottish bird... :-)

[Basic 2: The Revenge]

Originally posted by grobelaar



I movin' to Scotland... I want a feisty scottish bird... :-)

I've got one!! Certainly keep you in check. Best thing that happened to me, things were spiralling out of control for me a couple of years back. I had a horrendous drug problem, and trying to avoid the relationship I was in. The present lady has definitely sorted me out. The daft thing was all I needed was somebody to let me be me - that was it!

The moral of the story kids, never try and change anyone. They don't like it!!

[Lady E]

aint that the truth

[penciLneck]

First thoughts I would say yes to the topic question - please approach me..(is that too pathetic?) but on second thoughts my ex approached me and made all the moves. And as it turned out she had actually just caught the last elevator from hell, and suceeded in setting me back about 6 years emotionally and mentally. So although it is a pleasant enough thought, you never know who it might be....

[dirtyho]

My ex approached me and she was lovely, even though she left me
:( However I'm a better person for having been with her and I wouldn't swap those 8 years for anything.
Hurrah for girls who approach!

[penciLneck]

twice bitten, thrice shy - glad yours was human.

[dirtyho]

true enough, I was lucky

[penciLneck]

*chortle* I'm not bitter...

[invisibleplanet]

Originally posted by penciLneck
twice bitten, thrice shy - glad yours was human.

steer clear of pre-larvals!!!!

[tsr_tomas]

hahahahaaaa.

[Lady E]

i dont know if im a geeky girl or not.

[Sheridan]

emma: you certainly don't look geeky from your pic.

for me I am atracted to so many different types of girls. I was never one to be: 'I need a blonde hair blue eyed girl'. I find myself atracted to a brunette one day, to an asian the next, to a black girl or spanish girl the third day. I think it is best not to be too picky because you may meet someone who doesn't measure up to your 'standard of beauty' but they might be an awesome person whom you fall in love with. all of my criteria for my perfect mate is purely emotional and intelectual. I want a girl who knows exactly who she is, where she is, what she is doing, and where she wants to go. and has a more than average comprehension of the english language. I myself would like to start dating someone again, but I never get along well with the girls of my city. :(

[Loz]

I have to say that girls approaching me are a must. I am not only incredibly shy, so if I fancy someone, I am most likely to never ever mention the fact, or be too scared to even go up and talk to them in a friendly way, but in addition to that, I am very very blind to flirting.

Girls can activity flirt with me, and I'll think they're just being friendly, and be friendly back.

I think it might stem from low self esteem I suffered with chronically all through my teenage years. I still have a little hold-over from that, in that I pretty much think "no one could possibly fancy me."

So if you see me, and think I'm attractive, funny, and would like to be my girlfriend, please do come up and say so. A big flashing neon sign to the effect would probably just about catch my attention and I might get the hint...


Oh, and yes, I'm a geeky boy (attached photo for evidence). Geeky girls are attractive to me, because I associate being a bit of a geek with being intelligent, informed, and probably having a similar music taste and sense of humour as I do. Which is what I find most attractive.

[grobelaar]

A small slightly relevant aside: just got the uboot newsletter and they have a competition to win a years supply of condoms (365 - one for each day), all that remains for the winner is to find someone to use them with...

[Loz]

Novelty ballon animals?

[Daddys Girl]

Glasses ROCK!!!!! - I've worn them for absolutely years now, and to be honest, when I wore contact lenses for the 1st time last summer, I felt like something was missing without my specs (cue cool sunglasses to wear on the beach, etc...)

I dunno if I'm what you could call a 'geeky girl' either - I know that back in secondary school I was a bit geeky, but if you asked me, it kinda rocked too.... I went through a painfully skinny/lanky stage, which I suppose wasn't that attractive (especially with my curly-perm and my big round glasses), but hey? - I looked different from the rest ;o)

By Year 9, I entered my DM's and Short skool-skirt stage, which also saw me cut my hair down quite low, and highlight it with deep-red colour, and wear a lot of crazy silver jewellery - I stood out a hell of alot from the other black girls @ my east london secondary school - some treated me with utter fashion-scorn, and others really seemed to like the fact I was a tad 'different'

Anywho, I know that I'm looking very different from those days, but being different is always cool :)

I'm happy in my own skin (whatever it may be @ the moment), so I guess being myself and feeling confident and comfortable could be one of the keys in sorting my love-life out!!!!

Thread love 4EVA,
D_G ;o)

[Lady E]

nice one DG. you have always seemed like a really lovely person and that shows in your beautiful picture. please let us know how it goes with uni bloke.

[phil]

approach to danger by NWA is a classic and thats what it's like if any of you Unix shell bitchs approach me.

[deccard]

Originally posted by phil
approach to danger by NWA is a classic and thats what it's like if any of you Unix shell bitchs approach me.

i guess u wouldn´t know if they r00t u.

[phil]

moot

[Sheridan]

Originally posted by deccard


i guess u wouldn´t know if they r00t u.

haha! nice.

I too am completely blind to flirting. I never know if a girl is doing it puposefully or just joking around. which I find rather funny since I am good at reading people and being able to tell if they are nice or shady, and whether or not I should hang out with them. but I can never read into if a girl digs me or not. maybe I should take up some classes.

oh yeah, and to all the girls: don't sleep on the lanky skinny guys. sometimes we are just what you need. :!

[Daddys Girl]

Thank you Emma ;o)
I'll be sure to note down if anything of interest happens with me and the aloof one....

@Sheridan - lanky guys? They'll always rock, my friend... :)

D_G ;ox

[wheezer]

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[the captain]

I always have respect for a girl that approaches blokes.....just coz i find it hard enough to approach women that i like myself.....

Guess i'm a shy person at heart .

[namshub]

i was very chopped up last night, and this gorgeous girl i had a crush on years ago approached me, she too was very wasted and was flirting wif me intensely tho all i could to was say real dumb shit. i embarressed myself stoopid styles. i just did'nt know what to say/do and could'nt relax.... if only i was a little straighter.

[tsr_tomas]

namshub: LOVE IS IN THE AIR !

but serious, i thought girl´s liked it when they notice that guy´s get all shy and starts to mumbling. or isn´t it so women on the board ?

[invisibleplanet]

Originally posted by emma
i dont know if im a geeky girl or not.

emma is way to cute to be geeky :)